Acceptance – A strong word, which can change people, both for good and for bad.
Many people today have a fear of acceptance, everything we do mostly is to show “others” that we are worthy to be accepted by them. In that way I have seen people getting frustrated because they think they are not up to the mark.
I have seen people changing themselves altogether so that they are just accepted by their social circle or in a way that they can increase their social circle. And in turn they sometimes end up losing their own identity, losing up their culture and values.
And I can feel this happening because I was like that once. Childhood memories never fade away and they are the one which teach a lot in life. I as a child wanted to be the best among everyone. I had got a habit to be praised for everything I did. And when I met people who got more applauds, I used to get frustrated. That was a child’s feeling but it increased when I grew up. I was lucky that my frustration didn’t turn to jealousy as I would have lost some of the best things in my life if that would have happened..
Then slowly I realized, that I never wanted applauds or high positions, I was happy without them as well if I had company of good friends and some special people in my life who think I am worthy. It got limited but was still dependent on acceptance of some people.
And then, came Life, the best teacher! It all changed and I soon realized that it doesn’t matter outside, but inside. It’s all about satisfaction and not applauds or gifts or high ranks or positions or even money or society. Its all about satisfaction which everyone seeks for and from where happiness arises. And it never comes from people outside accepting us but from We accepting ourselves.
The moment I realized that I am unique, I had no comparisons, I was satisfied. Its acceptance of our own self that leads to satisfaction.
It’s simple when said in this way – if we can’t accept our own self, how can we expect others to accept us. Love yourself – because you are only one of your kind 🙂